Don't take it to heart.
"For John the Baptist has come eating no bread and drinking no wine, and you say, ‘He has a demon.’ The Son of Man has come eating and drinking, and you say, ‘Look at him! A glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’" - Jesus, Luke 7:33-34.
There are a lot of things that people could say about you or about me, and whether we like it or not, there might be some truth to it. However, there are some instances in life where people say things about you that are not only untrue, but you wonder how they came up with such a ridiculous claim.
In hindsight, this is pretty hilarious.
When I was in high school, I moved back to Texas after spending a year in Minnesota and there was a girl, whom we'll call Christina, that had apparently been saying some strange things about me. She told some of her friends that I was essentially trying to declare my love for her. She told one of her guy friends that I kept driving by her house to get her attention, but Christina also told the guy not to call me. He ended up calling me, cussed me out, and told me to quit driving by her house, but I wasn't driving by anyone's house. I was watching the Oklahoma vs. Texas basketball game with my family. He felt like an idiot and said, "Now it makes sense why she didn't want me to call."
Christina had told another a group of her friends this same story, but she didn't realize how close I was with one of the girls in that group, whom we'll call Andrea. Thankfully, Andrea wasn't having it. She told Christina in front of everyone, "That's not true. I know him, and there is no way that he would do something like that."
Then a few months ago, my wife and I moved to Atlanta, Georgia. If you've ever moved across state lines, that's all I need to say. If not, just know that it takes a great deal of faith, patience, and nearly constant prayer!
Not long after we got here, I was on the phone with a friend of mine who told me that there were some people spreading a rumor about things I had done and said. The allegations were not slightly off the mark, they were blatantly false. Not even mildly accurate. I didn't know these people very well and they hadn't said anything to me about it. The details of what they said were just getting back to me. I was caught off guard, but since the accusations never even happened, I had nothing to hide. Innocent people don't hide from an accuser, they address them. I did my best to take Biblical action. I brought in people I love and trust, talked to them about it, and then confronted the individual.
Of course, when I confronted them, I said what I had heard, there was a lot of tap-dancing, he-said-she-said, and then they got angry with me. I left it at that.
It reminded me of this Scripture in Luke. John the Baptist had taken the Nazarite vow from birth. One of the conditions of the Nazarite vow is that you don't drink alcohol. No margaritas with your fajitas, no wine with your steak, no beer on game-day. Zero, zip, nada.
Then Jesus came eating and drinking with the people. Not in a gluttonous or drunken way, but it didn't matter, both He and John were ridiculed. Both had rumors spread about them. No matter where you stand or what you stand for, there are going to be people that have a problem with the impact your making.
People will say things, assume things, and question things. Walk in who God says you are, not who people think you are.
People have motives that I can only speculate on, but it isn't worth my time or your time. Sometimes it's nothing more than misunderstanding, other times it's just that people don't like you for reasons they can't even pin-point, but all the time it is because there is a brokenness in us that is only able to be made new through Jesus.
I was upset when all this happened, but it's not like I've never falsely accused someone of anything. My halo isn't blinding anybody. What God knows about you is more important than what people think about you. You aren't going to be able to please everybody, and that's fine. Just remember that you aren't here to please people, but to be faithful to what God has called you to do and who God has called you to be.
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